First off, I want to say thank you all for the kind words and messages about Jake’s match results. Before I could even announce it, I had a lot of people reaching out to me asking where we matched. **yes I said WE; I am ranting a bit about this at the bottom of the post** I was honestly planning on waiting to announce it until the Monday after Match Day, but decided to do it on Saturday instead. My Match Day announcement post has by far been my highest viewed post in a single day. We are truly blessed by your support! The Anesthesiology program at the University of Alabama-Birmingham is one of the top in the country. As excited as I am about the big move, I am an emotional roller coaster right now. I wanted to be honest with y’all and share my thoughts about moving. Warning: this is going to be a long post! There is a lot on my mind.
As mentioned in this post here, when we found out Jake matched at UAB, it was no surprise. They had told him that he was ranked on their list in a position where he would definitely match there if he wanted to, and since Jake put them as his #1 anesthesia program, we went in expecting that UAB would be where we ended up. I posted a video on Facebook with our reaction and even had a comment saying, “That wasn’t much of a reaction.” We had been assuming that’s where we would end up ever since submitting the rank list, but it was nice to get the confirmation!
Finally knowing where will be 4 years later is amazing! We were nothing but excited all weekend. This feeling lasted until Monday.
From Monday on, I have been sad. We are leaving the place where we started our marriage, where Jake started med school, and where I started my first real “big girl” job. It was the first city we got to explore together and make our own. We also have family 1.5 hours away and 3 hours away from OKC. When we move, it will be either a flight away or a 10 hour drive to visit both our families. This is a little hard for me to take in.
My job here has given me such amazing memories and a great learning experience. It was the first full-time job I got out of college that actually related to my degree. My job has also been trying at times. Working with seniors can be hard, but it has been so rewarding, too. There were times I hated this job and looked for other jobs, but ultimately I am thankful I stuck with it. I have learned a lot and met some amazing people at this company. I am also thankful for this new opportunity to move on. I am very used to my job and to be honest would probably have just stayed doing the same thing for another 4-5 years. Doing the same job for 4 years can get old, fast, but I am also a comfort creature who really likes familiarity and routine. I am thankful for this opportunity to get out of my comfort zone, as I usually do not like to try anything new and drastic like this. Finding a new job in a new city absolutely terrifies me, but I’ve done it before and I know it will work out great.
We started our new life as a married couple in Oklahoma City, moving here right after we got back from our honeymoon. I am also sad to leave our beautiful home where we made so many memories. It seems like the cost of living in Birmingham is slightly higher, so I don’t know what our new house will be like. This was the first home we lived in together and got to call our own. We also met some of the most welcoming neighbors. The week we moved in, we were welcomed with a card from another neighbor. We have monthly ladies’ nights, so that will be hard to leave. We are happy to leave the HOA we are in though and will not miss that part, as HOA rules are pretty ridiculous and unfortunately there are some people who act like the HOA rules are on the same level as the Constitution of the United States!
I am sad to leave all of the OKC blogger friends I have made. I remember looking up to so many of them before I started my own blog, and now I call them my friends. I will greatly miss them, but am thankful I can still keep up with their blogs and Instagram accounts.
I am pretty terrified of change. Sometimes I need guidance and this will really teach me a lot. I am a “safe” person who lives in my comfort zone. When making Jake’s rank list, we asked ourselves, “when else are we going to do something a little crazy? When else will we have a concrete start and end date (Jake’s residency starts in late June 2018 and will end in late June 2022)?”.
I am scared to have to make new friends. I am a little on the reserved side, so making friends isn’t always easy for me. I will have to be more outgoing. This is good for me! I already feel welcomed by many sweet Birmingham wives who have reached out to me. I know I will meet some amazing people there. Jake has 20 other people in his residency class, and 17 of them are men, so I am hopeful they will have lovely wives that I can be friends with.
The Positives About Moving
The best part about our move is, as I mentioned above, Jake will receive top notch residency training. One of the people who interviewed Jake at his Harvard interview did his residency at UAB and spent over a decade as the UAB chairman before spending over a decade as the chairman at Harvard. That says a lot about how good UAB is!
The location is about 2 hours to Atlanta, 3 hours to Nashville (one of my favorite cities), 4 hours to Memphis, 4.5 hours to Rosemary Beach in Florida, 5 hours to New Orleans, 4.5 hours to Gulf Shores and Orange Beach and many more fun weekend trip places. With Jake being so busy during residency we won’t necessarily be able to plan travels out as far as in advance as we do now, so it’s nice to have several fun places within fairly easy driving distance. We plan to do a lot of nearby traveling.
With these down feelings, I am faithful God has a plan for us. We ended up matching in Birmingham for a reason. I need to remember to lean on him and get involved in a church there ASAP. Something that has been on my heart lately is “Bloom where you are planted.” This is what I intend to do. Birmingham is where we plan to start a family of our own. I know when we look back after residency we will be so thankful for this experience!
About The Outfit:
Sorry about the ramble; if you came for the outfit details, here they are. These pics were all taken in the skyline of OKC, so I thought they were pretty fitting when talking about our next chapter. This is one of those dresses that every lady needs to have in their closet. I never wear a bodycon dress. They are usually not flattering on me. This dress hugs every curve perfectly and is so flattering. This dress runs true to size. Kimonos are so in style right now, so I added this gorgeous Lilly Pulitzer one (thank goodness Birmingham has a Lilly store, which OKC does not!). I also added my favorite bamboo bag tote. Please note this one is a dupe and I highly recommend it. It is the smaller size. (I have had several people ask what size it is).
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I didn’t respond to the person, but I received a mean message from someone claiming they are a partner of a resident physician. They said it is really insulting how I always say “we” matched and about how I marketize Jake’s medical school journey is “offensive”. While obviously I am not a medical student and I personally didn’t match into a residency program, I consider this last chapter of our lives and all the next chapters to be about “we” and “us”. Jake has worked his tail off to provide us with a better future, and I have also given a lot to this marriage, too. I am part of this medical school process and will be moving to a new city with him.
I have been with Jake since day 1 of this medical school journey, from before we were even old enough to go to the bars back in college all the way up to today. I supported him during the heart breaking time of being wait-listed and ultimately rejected his first time applying to medical school. It was hard! Part of us worried he might never get the chance to pursue his dream of being a doctor. And I was there when he finally got accepted off the wait-list after applying the second time around. I remember him and I sitting together at his parents’ office during our lunch break. Jake called me over to the computer and said he needed to show me something. There was his acceptance into OU College of Medicine. It was an emotional experience that I’ll never forget. And I was with him as he studied day and night for his first board exam. He scored in the top 20% nationwide and we both were so proud. I have had to go engagement parties, weddings, and my grandmother’s funeral without him, since he had huge exams coming up. Just like Jake has made the sacrifice to work so hard these last few years, I, too, have had to sacrifice not having as much free time with him as I wish we could have. Believe me, I am part of this journey, too! I was with him when he got all As during 3rd year of medical school. I was with him as he got induced into the Alpha Omega Honor Society (an honor given to those who are selected out of the top 1/6th of each class). Boy, did he prove the OU med school acceptance committee wrong by pulling that off! And I was with him as we found out where WE matched. So yes, this is a “we” thing.
If this offends you, then you’re too hypersensitive and YOU need to get over yourself. I am NOT sorry that I am one of Jake’s #1 fans (I would say I am his #1 fan, but his mom is definitely as proud and supportive of him as I am; we’ve both been blessed to have such wonderful support from our families through this whole process).
WOW that was a lot! Maybe next time I won’t be so emotional, but that feels good to get off my chest (free therapy!). We are currently planning a trip to house-hunt in Birmingham soon and have a lot of other travels coming up, so stay tuned for the upcoming content. I look forward to bringing y’all into our new life in Birmingham!