Life is all about perspective and choosing happiness. This is something I have really come to understand lately. When we found out we were moving to Birmingham I was extremely excited. I had always wanted to live in the South since I was little and I loved it when we took a trip here. I have continued to be excited about our new city up until Jake got really deep into his work routine. As a new resident physician, Jake works long hours with only 4 days off a month. When he comes home he is completely exhausted. This has been hard to get used to after he had so much free time during his last year of medical school. Also, moving many states away from family and friends is hard to adjust to. I am in the middle of searching for a job right now, so not having a routine has thrown me off. Needless to say, there has been a lot of change going on for me and at first I didn’t take it well.
You may have noticed that I haven’t been very consistent with blogging lately, and to be transparent, it’s because I have been in a major rut for the past month. I was starting to feel like I have lost myself and was struggling to even get the simplest task done like unpacking a box of clothes. I was desperate to get out of this rut, so I tried a lot of things to try to get back to myself. Luckily this week I have really felt like myself again and I am feeling motivated again.
Here are 8 tips that have helped me get out of my rut:
- Prayer/Devotion: When you’re struggling, it’s so important to lean on God. I always feel a weight lifted off of my shoulders when I give my problems to God. Prayer is something that has really helped me. It doesn’t always instantly help, but he does answer prayers. I also have found doing a morning daily devotion helps set the mood for my day and helps me start with a positive tone.
- Admitting To Myself That I am Struggling: It took me a while to realize that I was in a rut. When I finally admitted to myself that I was in a rut and needed to get out of it, that is when I started to feel a change.
- Talking To A Loved One: On Saturday after Jake got home from a shift at the hospital, it casually came up in conversation that I was struggling. I am the type of person who bottles up my feelings and telling Jake this really helped lift a weight off of my shoulders. It also helped me feel closer to him.
- Attitude/Give Yourself A Pep Talk: When I finally admitted to myself that I was in a rut, I found changing my attitude was a huge part of changing my feelings. It may sound silly, but I mentally gave myself a pep talk. This has made a huge difference for me. We are in control of our attitude, so being positive is so important no matter the situation.
- Getting Involved: I am more on the introverted side, so going to events where I know nobody is hard for me. I have started to branch out and attend local events with other residents’ wives and bloggers to start making friends. Getting involved and meeting people has helped a lot. I am also planning to get involved in a church as well.
- Create A Routine: Although I am not working yet other than a few part-time things, I have found that creating a routine is important for me. This has helped me start to settle in better.
- Exercise: Exercise releases endorphins, so getting exercise 2-3 times a week has definitely helps me feel better. Jake and I finally joined a gym and I am hoping to try some classes as well. I have such a love/hate relationship with working out, but I always feel so much better physically and mentally when I’m done.
- Set goals/Make A To-Do List: I have had A.D.D. my whole life, so setting a to-do list and making goals is very important to me. Part of the way I have been able to cope with my A.D.D. is getting extra organized. I am motivated by crossing off tasks I have completed. I’ll set goals for things as little as unpacking a certain number of boxes or submitting job applications.
About This Dress:
I wore this on a recent date night and loved how breezy it was. The white eyelet is perfect for right now. The chest is not lined, so I added a little bandeau. I ordered my normal size and would say it runs a little tight in the chest. I paired it with turquoise and a tassel on my purse to add a little pop of color.
I hope everyone has a great rest of their week! Now that I am finally feeling motivated again, I am getting organized and generating new content. I know we can all get in a rut from time to time. It is completely normal and we all go through it, and the important thing is to just keep your head up and pushing on.