8 Ways I Knew Jake Was “The One” + a SHEIN Valentine’s Day Outfit

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Happy Valentine’s Day week! Before I found my prince, I dated many frogs. Jake and I started off as best friends first, which I 100% think is the way to go. I was actually dating someone at the time we met, but that quickly ended. After that, we were inseparable and the rest is history. It wasn’t long before I knew he was the one I would marry. We started officially dating my sophomore year of college and got engaged on our graduation day. To all of the single ladies out there, my biggest advice is don’t settle! There is someone out there who was made for you. I found myself settling before Jake and I dated, and I am so thankful I found him. In honor of Valentine’s Day I wanted to share how I knew Jake was “the one.”

8 Ways I knew Jake Was “The One”

  1. I Just knew: It’s hard to explain, but I just knew. I think you just know when you’ve found the one. We would call each other hubs and wife and talk about the future a lot. It always felt right and I still get excited to spend time with him.
  2. I couldn’t picture myself with anyone else.
  3. We talked about the future and kids: We quickly started to talk about our future of getting married and kids soon after dating. It would probably seem weird to someone looking in from the outside, but it just felt right with us. I never really talked about that with any of my exes.
  4. His work ethic: Jake is so driven and I was always very attracted to that. Seeing how hard he worked in college made me want to work harder, and we would study together a lot. He graduated college with an Honors College degree and two bachelor’s degrees (biology and economics). He also has a minor in microbiology and molecular genetics. I loved seeing how passionate he was about becoming a doctor. Jake actually was wait-listed and then rejected his first time applying to medical school, and he had to spend the next year working a job in medical supplies. The next year he was finally accepted to medical school and he made it his goal to show his medical school they made the wrong choice skipping over him the first time. He ended up graduating medical school as a member of the honors society that is only awarded to, at most, the top 15% of each class. He has continued to excel in residency. The other guys I dated had no ambition and it was refreshing dating someone as driven as Jake.
  5. I can 100% be myself around him: When you first meet me, I can be a little shy. Quickly with Jake I knew I could 100% be myself and felt comfortable around him.
  6. He’s a gentleman: Jake has always been a gentleman to me and puts me first.
  7. He never played games: With so many other relationships in college, guys play games. Jake was not like that. He was always honest and said what he felt. It was very refreshing.
  8. We are the same person: We have the same religious views, political views, family views and finish each other’s sentences. They say opposites attract, but having a lot common was something that really attracted me to him. Jake and I still finish each other’s sentences.

There are many other ways I knew he was the one, but I wanted to list the top reasons. How did you know your spouse was the one or what qualities do you look for when dating someone?



    • abyersguide
      February 12, 2020 / 2:45 pm

      Thanks, Jennifer 🙂

    • abyersguide
      February 12, 2020 / 2:47 pm

      Thank you so much, Annaliese! I am so glad you liked it. Absolutely, it’s soooo important to not settle. I always settled with guys who didn’t treat me well before Jake. I am so thankful I met him.

  1. February 10, 2020 / 7:04 pm

    Aw this is a cute story!! My husband and I were friends too and I was shocked when he asked me on a date!

    • abyersguide
      February 12, 2020 / 2:48 pm

      Thank you so much, Jenna. That is so cute. Having a friendship first is important.

  2. February 11, 2020 / 6:58 am

    There’s nothing like having the right person in your life and one that you value his ethics! I feel blessed, as well. However you still need to work at it. Love your bunch of balloons and of course your bag!!!!!

    • abyersguide
      February 12, 2020 / 2:49 pm

      Absolutely! I think it makes all the difference. Very true, you always have to work on it. 🙂

  3. Ashh
    February 11, 2020 / 4:04 pm

    What a lovely post! I met mine at Uni and i knew it he is the one when i first saw him..i think we know if it is meant to be! I’m so happy for you. Love your dress in this post.

    • abyersguide
      February 12, 2020 / 2:52 pm

      Thank you so much 🙂 Aww that is so sweet. You just know when you’ve met “the one.” I am so happy for you too.

  4. February 16, 2020 / 5:43 pm

    Belated Valentines wishes to you Courtney! I know there are many frogs out there , and you sure did find a Prince in Jake. You knew in your heart. We also started talking about kids early on, better to know their intentions early. It is always good when the person you are marrying is a worker and has goals. I can tell from the pics that Jake is a Gentleman ! Mine was always very sweet to me and I just knew ! Have a nice evening Dear, Terri xo.

    • abyersguide
      February 20, 2020 / 12:36 pm

      Thank you, Terri! You too! 🙂 Aww I really did 🙂 Yes, it is very important to know early on that you’re on the same page. So glad you found your soulmate too.

  5. Lindsey Puls
    February 18, 2020 / 8:49 am

    This is so sweet! I agree, it’s hard to explain, but you “just know” when you’ve found the right person.

    • abyersguide
      February 20, 2020 / 12:33 pm

      Exactly, you just know. Aw thank you 🙂

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